Being A Qualitative Parent

A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.

Children do not come with guidelines or instructions. What they do come with is a crucial set of physical and emotional needs that need to be met. To raise children properly, parents duties are not limited to just food, shelter and protection. Parents are largely responsible for their children’s success in life. Parents are required to teach and educate children. They have to shape knowledge and character into their children to prepare them to face the real world. To be successful with this, parents must provide self esteem needs, teach moral and values and provide discipline that is both effective and appropriate. As the generations have changed, many parenting styles have evolved, as well.

Would you have come out different if your parents used a different parenting style? If you are considered “cool” now could you have come out a nerd if your parents would have used a different parenting style? “Parenting style is one of the primary determinants of your child’s outcome whether he succeeds, achieves, meets the challenges, flounders, gives up, or runs from or fails in handling life.” (6) The purpose of this paper is to describe the outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques of parenting in a psychological point of view. Parenting styles are defined as the “manner in which parents express their beliefs on how to be a good or bad parent.” (4) Each parenting style has its weaknesses and

~My parenting practices and philosophy come from my experience as a child. I remember when I was young my parents didn’t really push me to succeed and learn new things. I want my child to explore and learn as much as she can. My parents were also lenient when it came to me getting in trouble which made me do worse things when I was older because I knew the consequences wouldn’t be so bad. That made me want to be a strict parent.

There are many different types of parents with diverse parenting styles in the world. Some are efficient in their ways, while others struggle to wonder why their child did not turn out to be everything they hoped. The controversial topic of whether the parent knows what is best for their child hangs over the reader’s head in Amy Chua’s article.

Before having kids, everyone has an idealistic fantasy of what type of parent they are going to be. Will they be a Mary Poppins or a Mommy Dearest? These two women parented in very different but similar ways. Mary Poppins used an authoritative approach to parenting whilst Mommy Dearest used an authoritarian approach. Authoritative and authoritarian parenting styles are the most widely used styles in modern day parenting, with authoritative parenting being the one with the most positive results in terms of child development. They are similar in what parents expect from their children but differ in the way that parents respond to their children’s needs. The effects of the chosen parenting style can be seen in the way that a child feels about themselves and how they interact with the outside world.

My parenting style is shown through the many different decisions I made throughout my child’s development. When making certain decisions I asked myself how I was going to assess the situation. How was I going to make the decision where it would benefit me and my child in the future? I would describe my parenting style as very disciplined, however, laid back during certain situations. When there was a problem I made the decision to address the problem with my child. For example, at 18 months, Leo started saying the word “no” and started to refuse help. I made the decision to let him choose between two choices which are both options that I want him to do. This allowed my child to become an active part in making choices during a certain situation. At three years old, Leo was being pushed around in school and was lacking leadership abilities. I made the decision to arrange play dates with other kids and praised Leo for sharing and communicating appropriately with the other children. During adolescence, Leo’s self-esteem was pretty high,

When asked for the key to good parenting, most adults would respond with a similar answer: being present in their children’s lives. Unfortunately, in this current culture, many adults have two jobs. They try to earn enough money to support their families, so they rarely have enough time to help their children with daily situations. Additionally, children do not always have a desire to seek help from their parents for a variety of reasons. Although parents attempt to help their sons and daughters through difficult times, whether it is about school, their social lives, or even the healthy or unhealthy choices they are making for dinner that night, children do not always want to listen to their parents.

“Just as our ancestors were left to their own devices to survive a hostile world full of wild animals, severe elements of nature, and a decided lack of vocabulary, we, too, are on our own when it comes to surviving today’s hostile world of wild bullies, fatal climate swings, economic stressors, and a persistent overload of information. These issues, along with many others, affect the way in which we parents our children but because we want the best for them and fear the worst if we don’t pull out all the stops, we sometimes succumb to unreasonable and extreme behavior. Despite our best intentions and an untestable desire to do our best for our kids, we can easily succumb to what we call overparenting” (Glass 3). Parenting; it doesn’t come with

Reflecting on my goals and accomplishments in life, I developed an idea of what I a parent’s obligation should be. Similar to how my parents raised me, I agree that a parent’s obligation is to see that their child’s best potential is realized. Although I agree with that belief, I do not agree that a child needs to become the “super-best” person they can be in order to realize their own personhood. A child’s idea of “super-best” cannot be fulfilled by anyone but him or herself, therefore is not the parent’s obligation. Parents should act as resources to their children to guide them in the right direction in life. My parents let me drive the steering wheel in my own life, allowing me to make my own decisions and mistakes. Allowing children the

A parent’s ability to properly raise a child stands as the most pivotal test in their chapter of life as guardians. The quality of a guardians “parenting” skills create the foundation for the child to grow and prosper in their lifetime as good, moral human beings. As a society, we understand that we need to teach our children right from wrong, not talk to strangers, and to always share with others. These just begin to break the surface of the many lessons that good parents should instill into their children’s young malleable brains. Now, just because this grand expectation of “good parenting” stand so highly in society, doesn’t mean they always step up to the plate and perform like they should. Some parents in today’s society do not actually

Research has shown that authoritative parenting is the most effective style to develop independence, decision-making skills, high self-esteem, and sociability (Arnett, 2013). This style is a delicate balance of communicating and setting clear behavioral expectations in a loving, empathetic, and respectful way (Arnett, 2013). In adolescence good decisions are not always made so attentive parenting is vital. During late adolescence, Grace tested boundaries and warranted astute parenting skills.

The authoritative parenting style is the “In between,” of both the authoritarian and permissive parenting styles, and has a “Give and take approach.” Authoritative parents are very involved in their children’s lives: children help around the home and in decision-making processes, and homework is supervised. This approach to parenting raises children who are responsible, well behaved in school, have a high self-esteem, and good problem solving skills along with decision making skills. The authoritative approach to parenting has very positive effects on children’s lives presently, and in the future. (Marsiglia, C.,Walczyk, J., Buboltz, W., Ross, D. 2007).

“Baumrind (1967, 1971) identified three main styles of parenting”, explains Swartz, de la Rey, Duncan and Townsend (2011:65). The three main styles of parenting are authoritarian parenting, authoritative parenting and permissive parenting. Furthermore, each one of these parenting styles is associated with certain outcomes based on the behaviour of the child, the type of relationship that the child has with the parent and even the child’s self-esteem. However, according to a psychological expert Cherry (2015) “developmental psychologists have long been interested in how parents impact child development”. In brief, this might mean that, parents’ actions and behaviour have a huge impact on their child, which may cause the child to adopt the behaviour and make it a habit as they grow to be parents. So, as a parent you should always keep in mind that “your kids watch you for a living. It’s their job, it’s what they do. That’s why it’s so important to try your best to be a good role model”, declares Lehman (n.d.). I will now discuss the authoritarian

Self-confidence helps children and adults be more successful individuals. People with self-confidence make friends easier, accomplish more, and are less likely to be plagued with sleep disorders, social disorders, depression, and anxiety. Obviously teaching your kids to be self-confident is an important parental responsibility. Five of the best ways to do this is to let your children known its okay to make mistakes, to expose them to new activities, places and people every day, to show unconditional love, avoid comparisons to others and encourage rather than praise.